COMMUNICATION GLITCHES- (comments invited)
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1. Judgmental Reception of the statements
It is not necessary to judge every statement made by person you are talking to and categorize the stated action into right or wrong. Receive the statements neutrally, by default unless asked. This will make life more easier in terms of independance from thoughts of comparison about what you and others have and do not have. Moreover this will also give your partner, space to comfortably share their thoughts and experiences with you without the fear of being judged as right or wrong.
2. Assumptions in Conversation
A conversation which involves making assumptions (and inferences) out of what other person tells you, process the 'hidden/unsaid' information and jump to speak the conclusions of processed information which further becomes input to next such cycle. Don't you find it is confusing?? I cannot communicate like this. some people are really good at communicating using this pattern. It can create greater chances of misunderstanding and moreover it is very irritating. Dont you think so?
One example which reveals a different aspect (from the aspect discussed above) of problem of making assumptions in conversation is given below. Will give more examples as I rewrite this article soon. Also I feel I have not been very successful at describing the topic in this article because evidences are not handy right now. so, will rewrite soon. Your ideas are importantly invited as well (please use comment section). Example follows:
Person A: Why am I feeling that you are annoyed to me and do not want to talk to me? Come on tell me what went wrong.
Person B: Well, Our pattern of work is different.
Now, logically, person A should not assume here that this is a problem. Because actually this is the pattern of nature that every human works differently from others. So, logically, he should demand articulation of the problem rather than assuming that above stated activity is the problem. This way, probably person B would realize that this is not a problem at all, or he may himself realize the solution to the hidden problem. So, lot of things may happen if we abandon the habit of assuming.
One example which reveals a different aspect (from the aspect discussed above) of problem of making assumptions in conversation is given below. Will give more examples as I rewrite this article soon. Also I feel I have not been very successful at describing the topic in this article because evidences are not handy right now. so, will rewrite soon. Your ideas are importantly invited as well (please use comment section). Example follows:
Person A: Why am I feeling that you are annoyed to me and do not want to talk to me? Come on tell me what went wrong.
Person B: Well, Our pattern of work is different.
Now, logically, person A should not assume here that this is a problem. Because actually this is the pattern of nature that every human works differently from others. So, logically, he should demand articulation of the problem rather than assuming that above stated activity is the problem. This way, probably person B would realize that this is not a problem at all, or he may himself realize the solution to the hidden problem. So, lot of things may happen if we abandon the habit of assuming.
